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Basis for 11 Days of Kindness for Kids classroom lesson plans and activities

Teaching kindness is a vital part of a child's development. It helps build empathy, respect, and positive relationships. One of the best ways to nurture kindness is through social emotional learning (SEL). SEL focuses on developing skills like self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, relationship skills, and responsible decision-making. By integrating SEL kindness activities into daily routines, children can learn to express kindness naturally and confidently.


Eye-level view of a classroom with children sitting in a circle
Children participating in a kindness circle activity

Engaging SEL Kindness Activities for Children


Incorporating SEL kindness activities into classrooms or homes can be simple and fun. These activities encourage children to think about others' feelings and practice kindness in real-life situations. Here are some practical ideas:


  • Kindness Jar: Place a jar in the classroom or home where children can drop notes describing kind acts they have done or witnessed. At the end of the week, read the notes aloud to celebrate kindness.

  • Compliment Circle: Have children sit in a circle and take turns giving compliments to the person on their right. This activity boosts self-esteem and encourages positive communication.

  • Role-Playing Scenarios: Create situations where children practice responding kindly, such as helping a friend who is sad or inviting someone new to join a game.

  • Gratitude Journals: Encourage children to write or draw things they are thankful for, focusing on people who have shown them kindness.

  • Kindness Bingo: Design a bingo card with acts of kindness like "helped a classmate," "shared a toy," or "said thank you." Children aim to complete a row or full card by performing these acts.


These activities not only promote kindness but also help children develop emotional intelligence and social skills. For more ideas, explore social emotional learning activities that foster kindness and empathy.


Close-up view of a colorful kindness jar filled with notes
Kindness jar filled with notes of kind acts

What are the 5 SEL Practices?


Understanding the core practices of SEL helps in designing effective kindness activities. The five key SEL practices are:


  1. Self-Awareness: Recognizing one’s emotions, thoughts, and values. For example, children learn to identify when they feel upset and why.

  2. Self-Management: Regulating emotions and behaviors in different situations. This includes calming down when angry or staying focused during tasks.

  3. Social Awareness: Understanding and empathizing with others from diverse backgrounds and cultures. Children learn to see things from others’ perspectives.

  4. Relationship Skills: Building healthy relationships through communication, cooperation, and conflict resolution. Activities like group projects or peer mentoring support this.

  5. Responsible Decision-Making: Making ethical and constructive choices about personal and social behavior. Children practice thinking about the consequences of their actions.


By embedding these practices into kindness activities, children develop a well-rounded emotional and social skill set that benefits them throughout life.


High angle view of children working together on a group project
Children collaborating on a group activity to build relationship skills

Practical Tips for Implementing SEL Kindness Activities


To make SEL kindness activities effective, consider these actionable recommendations:


  • Create a Safe Environment: Ensure children feel comfortable expressing their feelings and ideas without judgment.

  • Model Kindness: Adults should demonstrate kindness in their interactions, as children learn a lot by observing.

  • Use Storytelling: Share stories or books that highlight acts of kindness and empathy. Discuss the characters’ feelings and choices.

  • Encourage Reflection: After activities, ask children how they felt and what they learned about kindness.

  • Involve Families: Share kindness activities with parents and caregivers to reinforce learning at home.

  • Be Consistent: Integrate kindness activities regularly rather than as one-time events to build lasting habits.


These tips help create a supportive atmosphere where kindness can flourish naturally.


Measuring the Impact of SEL Kindness Activities


Evaluating the effectiveness of kindness activities is important to understand their impact and improve them. Here are some ways to measure success:


  • Observation: Watch for changes in children’s behavior, such as increased sharing, helping, or positive communication.

  • Self-Reports: Use simple surveys or discussions where children express how they feel about kindness and their own actions.

  • Peer Feedback: Encourage children to give feedback on how their classmates show kindness.

  • Teacher or Caregiver Notes: Keep records of notable acts of kindness or improvements in social interactions.

  • Academic and Social Outcomes: Monitor if kindness activities correlate with better classroom behavior, reduced conflicts, or improved academic engagement.


Tracking these indicators helps educators and caregivers tailor activities to better meet children’s needs.


Encouraging Lifelong Kindness Through SEL


Kindness is a skill that grows with practice and intention. By embedding social emotional learning activities into daily life, children develop empathy and compassion that last a lifetime. These SEL kindness activities not only improve individual well-being but also create more caring communities.


Start small with simple acts and gradually build more complex activities. Celebrate every kind gesture, no matter how small. Remember, kindness is contagious - when children experience it, they are more likely to pass it on.


Explore more resources and ideas for fostering kindness through social emotional learning activities and watch the positive ripple effect in your community.



By focusing on kindness through SEL, we empower children to become thoughtful, caring individuals who contribute positively to the world around them.

 

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Thanks to the kindness of board members, volunteers, corporate supporters and "Come From Away" Broadway fans, the 24th annual Pay it Forward 9/11 campaign is able to invite groups, businesses and individuals to start planning their activities to remember one of America’s darkest days in US history. 


The #11DaysofKindness campaign and 24th anniversary of Pay it Forward 9/11 is generously supported by the writers and producers of Come From Away, Air Canada, Junkyard Dog Productions and by Love, Tito's foundation, Trinity Church Wall Street and Gallin & Son.


Created in tribute to the compassionate people of small towns in the island province of Newfoundland and Labrador, Canada, Pay It Forward 9/11 was started in 2002 by an airline passenger stranded there, wondering if others would do the same where they lived if a town nearly doubled in population within hours.


Now you can win a trip for two to see Come From Away musical in the town where this story happened! Thanks to Air Canada and Come From Away-You Are Here producer Michael Rubinoff, you could win the Great Gander Getaway Giveaway. (sweepstakes closes Sept. 12, 2025)


Post a photo on your social media channels using #PayitForward911 and #NeverForget so we can share. Learn more at http://payitforward911.org or on the organization’s Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, or YouTube to be inspired with additional Pay it Forward 9/11 content.


Donations are tax-deductible and help us distribute our 11 Day of Kindness for Kids program. For additional questions or partnership ideas, email info@payitforward911.org.


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Each year, leading up to the anniversary of 9/11, people are encouraged to perform three random acts of kindness for strangers for #11DaysOfKindness. The 23rd annual Pay it Forward 9/11 campaign invites groups, businesses and individuals to share their commitment to September acts of kindness on an online map, and start planning their activities to remember one of America’s darkest days in US history. 


Created in tribute to the compassionate people of small towns in the island province of Newfoundland and Labrador, Canada, Pay It Forward 9/11 was started in 2002 by an airline passenger stranded there, wondering if others would do the same where they lived.


“We pledged to never forget,” said Kevin Tuerff, president and founder of Pay it Forward 9/11. “Our 11 Days of Kindness campaign honors those killed in 2001 on 9/11, and also the heroes who volunteered with acts of compassion, much like what I experienced when my 9/11 Trans-Atlantic flight was diverted to an island province in Canada. Thousands of unexpected travelers were provided necessities of food, clothing, and shelter for five days and their kindness continues decades later through Pay It Forward 9/11.”


Tips to pay it forward this September:

  1. Download and share our free “#11DaysofKindness for Kids” card packs on the website (payitforward911.org/), and donate them to your local school, house of worship, scout troop, or other community organization.

  2. Write thank you notes to first responders, healthcare heroes, military or essential workers.

  3. Buy a tank of gas for a stranger at the gas pump.

  4. When you visit a coffee shop, offer to purchase the beverage for the person behind you in line and see if the idea sticks around for others.

  5. Ask restaurant or bar wait staff if you can pick up the tab from a nearby table of strangers. In the bill holder, insert a “Smile you’re the recipient of a random act of kindness” card (available on our website payitforward911.org).


Share your kindness story on our website (payitforward911.org) and post a photo on your social media channels using #PayitForward911 and #neverforget so we can share. Learn more at http://payitforward911.org or on the organization’s Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, or YouTube to be inspired with additional Pay it Forward 9/11 content.


The 23rd anniversary of Pay it Forward 9/11 is generously supported by the writers and producers of Come From Away musical and by Dell TechnologiesTito’s Handmade Vodka, Jet Blue, and Gallin & Son. Sponsorships are still available for 2024. Pay it Forward 9/11, Inc. is a nonprofit organization registered in the State of New York, and is a 501(c)3 organization registered with the Internal Revenue Service. Contributions are tax-deductible. For additional questions or partnership ideas, email info@payitforward911.org.

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